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I asked if she was okay, and my brother said she was fine

Dear Uncle Gary, I’m 19 and live with my parents. My brother (32) and his girlfriend, she’s either 21 or 22- I live about 15 minutes away, but they stayed with us this weekend for my dad’s birthday. My brother and I aren’t very close, and I haven’t talked much with his girlfriend, but she seems nice. We’re close in age, and we go to the same college, so I could actually see us becoming friends. (The age gap between her and my brother is a little weird, especially since she’s

Gary Domasin

1 day ago5 min read

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Officially the girl with the stank breath

Dear Uncle Gary, Mid-hookup, this guy just stops and goes, “Yeah I think I’m done, your breath stinks.” I was mortified. Like crawl-into-the-earth-and-disappear mortified. I left immediately, didn’t say a word, just dipped. Thing is, I looked good that night. Full glam, full confidence, full-course-meal energy. But apparently my breath said “leftovers.” We’ve known each other for months, and now I’m sitting in this Uber wondering—did I just ruin everything over one bad breat

Gary Domasin

3 days ago2 min read

I could use a little perspective.

My fiancé is super particular about cleanliness; he showers daily, sometimes even twice. Meanwhile, I tend to shower every other day and wash my hair every 3–4 days.

Gary Domasin

Oct 282 min read

Clean, Confident, and Consistent: A Hygiene Routine That Works

I know what you’re thinking: “Is Uncle Gary really about to give me a hygiene lecture like I’m thirteen and just discovered armpits?” Not exactly. I’m not here to shame anyone, and I don’t think young men are roaming the earth in a cloud of funk and confusion. But I’ve seen what happens when structure disappears, when the dorm replaces the dining room, and nobody’s around to say, “Hey, maybe wash your sheets once in a while.” This isn’t an intervention. It’s a nudge. A remind

Gary Domasin

Oct 225 min read

Aesthetic Fluidity and the Currency of Adaptability

The Premise Let’s start with a truth that’s not universal, but it’s gaining traction: In 2025, financial and social success often correlate with being “aesthetically fluid.” It’s not a law of nature, but it is a cultural undercurrent. And it’s worth unpacking. Aesthetic fluidity isn’t just about fashion. It’s about adaptability. Authenticity. The ability to define your own identity while navigating environments that still judge you by how you show up. What Is Aesthetic Fluidi

Gary Domasin

Oct 103 min read

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More Than Just a “Friend

Dear Uncle Gary, My stepmom keeps introducing my husband as my “friend.” Not once, not twice, every time . We’ve been married for over two years, and it’s not like she doesn’t know. She was at the wedding. She’s met his family. She’s seen the ring. At first, I brushed it off as forgetfulness or awkwardness, but now it feels intentional. Like she’s minimizing our relationship, or refusing to acknowledge it. It’s starting to feel disrespectful, not just to him, but to me as wel

Life is about connection.

Gary Domasin

2 days ago2 min read

My mom (39) is dating her coworker (20). I’m 21.

Hey Uncle Gary, My mom (39) is dating her coworker (20). I’m 21, and I’ve actually known him for years; she even tried to set me up with him last summer. We flirted a little, nothing serious, but now he’s her boyfriend. It feels gross, like I’m part of some twisted fantasy. My mom has always been my best friend, the person I trusted most. This broke something in me. She knows how I feel about her dating guys close to my age, but younger than me? I can’t respect that. My young

Bombshells force us to change.

Gary Domasin

3 days ago3 min read